A read a very sad "Dear Abbie" style column today on MSN.com where a reader asked Dr. Gilda Carle if she was "unlovable" while she is overweight-though she is in the process of getting thin.
She asked if she should merely accept the fact that she will not be loveable until she is thin.
Of course, Dr. Gilda responded saying that the woman is more than worthy of love no matter what size she is-we all are, right!?
But she responded with a fundamental message that I personally have always believed to be true: You cannot find someone to fully love you and totally let their love in until you first love yourself.
Well, this is not exactly the way she responded I guess. She said that she is friends with two overweight women who loved themselves with no exception just the way they were and had more thrilling love lives than her. But essentially, that's the same thing as loving yourself.
If you are in the process of losing weight, you're obviously trying to change something about your physical appearance, but that doesn't mean you can't love yourself as you are throughout the process. There are days when I feel awful. I feel fat, and jiggly and wiggly and just downright gross. But at some point during each and every one of those "bad" days I have, I think to myself that no matter how bad I'm feeling, I still love myself, EXACTLY the way I am, and that I'm just working toward improvement (which can always happen).
posted @ Thursday, July 08, 2010 7:53 PM